Inquest

'It is my conclusion that he wanted to end his life'


That's what she said, the coroner. A kind way of putting it, avoiding the word-suicide.  But also a brutal way of putting it. I nodded. Yes, he did, didn't he?


Afterwards I barely saw or heard the volunteer offering a room to sit in.... No thanks.  I just needed air before I passed out. It was only half an hour. 30minutes to read out the evidence that indicated and summarised my husband's intention to die.

I knew what the documents said, I knew what the conclusion would be. The evidence was unequivocal. And yet. Somehow it was still shocking.

This is case closed, but there is no closure. What happened to him? Why? Why? Why? 

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